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Mother of Deceased: ‘I’m Hurt. I’m Angry, I’m Disgusted.’
Joseph Koscinski died by suicide April 3 at the age of 41, leaving behind many loved ones.
The Society of Professional Journalists’ ethics code advises journalists to “minimize harm” and “show compassion for those who may be affected by news coverage.”
But on the contrary, the Herald‘s news article on his death likely did more harm to both the family of the man who died and those affected by mental illness.
“I’m so devastated that they would be so insensitive as to drum up painful incidents from the past that we had worked so hard to put behind us…all to sell papers,” Koscinski’s mother, Betty Koscinski, told iMediaEthics. “I’m hurt. I’m angry, I’m disgusted with a newspaper that has no respect for human life…most especially my son’s life.”
“Losing a son to suicide is painful enough for anyone without adding total disregard to his memory and our family,” she added.
In a later message, days after her son’s funeral, Koscinski wrote from the heart about the pain of losing her son and the further pain of his death being exploited by the Herald.
“It doesn’t get any easier, and in some ways, it only gets harder with sleepless nights and awakening in the morning to the reality that Joe is really gone,” she e-mailed iMediaEthics. “The grief I deal with every day does not compare to the anger, hurt and even rage that I’m trying to process because of The Herald‘s gruesome and insensitive detailed description of my son’s death.”
Great article. Our local paper did a great disservice to the family of the diseased and our community. I’m glad that they are being held accountable for their rubbish. Thank you.
Thank you for this article. I read the original piece and was appalled. It was extremely insensitive and offered no sense of compassion or hope. Joe was a beloved friend who, before his Illness, was the most kind, compassionate, caring individual. I have been in disbelief since reading the article and your piece has helped me process the wrongs that were done and move forward. I hope the koscinki’s find some peace. Joe deserved better. RIP my friend.
Thank you for bringing to light the poor style of the writers involved. Reading the original article less than 24 hours after the death felt like I was reading something from a crime fiction novel. I felt embarrassment for a news outlet that should be objectively representing our small town. I hope this also encourages them to look further into our dwindling mental health system locally.
This is really a terrible and one-sided article. It gave to quotations from the story in question, and it gave no comments from the reporter who wrote it. I don’t understand how any editor in charge of this web page could have allowed such an incomplete story to be posted. This article itself is a great “media lapse.”
Dear Mr. Garrigues,
We contacted the newspaper’s publisher and reporters several times. We only received a statement in response from the publisher on behalf of the newspaper, which is included in this story. We have updated to detail the efforts we made, as that was cut during editing. Sydney
Yes mental illness is real I myself suffer from depression but where is the responsibility for his own actions.The whole situation is sad.I suffered since my early teen years and as a 41 year old woman I know When things are getting over whelming I know its time to make a doctor’s appointment to adjust my meds or seek out counseling..in most cases people see suicide as a last choice and the key word is choice..He choose to end his life the way he did and let’s not forget he endangered the public also..I apologize if I sound insensitive my heart breaks for his family because suicide is a selfish act and I understand is hurt right now and looking for someone to blame,but its not the Sharon Herolds fault..
Mental illness is not a choice.
This story is focused on media reporting on suicide and best practices for coverage.
Sydney
Thank you for calling out The Herald. Joe and his family deserved better. One of the worst things about the whole situation was that one of the reporters was from the immediate area and knew the family. Not sure how low they can go, The Herald has always been a rag, but this has to be one of their worst written stories in recent times.
Thank you for bringing to light a newspaper that crosses the ethical and emphatic lines consistently . The Sharon Hearald editors will do what ever they can to sell newspapers with no regard to how their stories affect the families of their sensationalism .
My heart goes out to the family of this young man.
Hopefully the editions learn from this , however, I think the only thing that will put a stop to their practices is for folks to stop buying the newspaper.
Perhaps out of their misguided fear of “suicide contagion” (“crime and corruption contagion” doesn’t seem to stop any other kinds of reporting) the media usually downplays or ignores stories about suicide.
When a story does appears its usually stripped of all humanity and used to trot out platitudes, statistics, and share a few crisis phone numbers. Hundreds of lives are lost every week perhaps because these stories of suffering and loss go unreported. The daily example of a socity that doesn’t care and no one trying to understand the suffering of someone before (or after) they take their life.
This newspaper was terribly wrong!! I just ran across this and my heart bleeds for this Mom, Dad and family.
I don’t know the details of the death and I don’t want to know……I believe when someone dies, it doesn’t have to be mentioned.
The obituaries give the name of births and deaths. The reasoning’s really aren’t necessary.
God Bless this family and friends.